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PinnedHow long did the 6-month waiting period actually take for you?

Started by sunflower_la4 months agoCA

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by sunflower_la · 4 months ago
Mediation tomorrow and I'm terrified

Started by first_mediation4 months agoCA

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by first_mediation · 4 months ago
Ex parte — heard this is for emergencies

Started by ex_parte_panic4 months agoCA

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by ex_parte_panic · 4 months ago
Just got served and I have no idea what's happening

Started by blindsided_224 months agoCA

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by blindsided_22 · 4 months ago
Can he take me off the car insurance during the case

Started by kicked_off_auto4 months agoCA

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by kicked_off_auto · 4 months ago
Will my immigration status come up in divorce

Started by status_threat4 months agoCA

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by status_threat · 4 months ago
Restraining order in the middle of a divorce

Started by broken_window4 months agoCA

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by broken_window · 4 months ago
He took the kids to his mother's and won't bring them back

Started by missing_kids_now4 months agoCA

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by missing_kids_now · 4 months ago
Lawyer wants to withdraw 3 weeks before trial

Started by lawyer_walking4 months agoCA

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by lawyer_walking · 4 months ago
My lawyer ghosted me three weeks ago

Started by ghosted_client4 months agoCA

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by ghosted_client · 4 months ago
Discovery deadline missed — by me

Started by missed_discovery4 months agoCA

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by missed_discovery · 4 months ago
He emptied the joint account the day I filed

Started by scared_and_broke4 months agoCA

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by scared_and_broke · 4 months ago
Dog custody — please don't laugh

Started by dog_mom_first4 months agoCA

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by dog_mom_first · 4 months ago
He's saying I'm an unfit mother because I work nights

Started by night_shift_mom4 months agoCA

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by night_shift_mom · 4 months ago
Notice of entry of judgment in the mail

Started by the_big_paper4 months agoCA

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by the_big_paper · 4 months ago
Can I move out of the house before the divorce is final

Started by stuck_at_home4 months agoCA

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by stuck_at_home · 4 months ago
Filed last month, spouse still hasn't been served

Started by tired_in_sac4 months agoCA

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by tired_in_sac · 4 months ago
Final judgment package keeps getting kicked back

Started by judgment_rejected4 months agoCA

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by judgment_rejected · 4 months ago
What is an RFO and why do I need to file one

Started by rfo_what4 months agoCA

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by rfo_what · 4 months ago
Filing fee waiver — what they actually look at

Started by snap_fee_waiver4 months agoCA

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by snap_fee_waiver · 4 months ago
Pro per — can I really represent myself

Started by going_pro_per4 months agoCA

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by going_pro_per · 4 months ago
He won't return the kids on Sunday like the order says

Started by sunday_six_pm4 months agoCA

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by sunday_six_pm · 4 months ago
Custody when one parent has bipolar disorder

Started by stable_six_years4 months agoCA

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by stable_six_years · 4 months ago
How long after filing until first court date

Started by waiting_in_silence4 months agoCA

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by waiting_in_silence · 4 months ago
Default judgment — what does that actually mean for me

Started by missed_deadline4 months agoCA

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by missed_deadline · 4 months ago
Why do I have to give him my W-2s

Started by private_paycheck4 months agoCA

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by private_paycheck · 4 months ago
U visa victim of DV — separate process from divorce

Started by u_visa_dv4 months agoCA

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by u_visa_dv · 4 months ago
What does 'judgment entered' mean

Started by judgment_entered_now4 months agoCA

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by judgment_entered_now · 4 months ago
School enrollment — he won't sign the forms

Started by kinder_registration4 months agoCA

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by kinder_registration · 4 months ago
Frozen credit cards mid divorce

Started by frozen_credit4 months agoCA

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by frozen_credit · 4 months ago
She filed for divorce and I want to reconcile

Started by second_chances4 months agoCA

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by second_chances · 4 months ago
Name change after divorce — DMV won't accept the form

Started by dmv_name_change4 months agoCA

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by dmv_name_change · 4 months ago
Spouse keeps changing lawyers

Started by third_law_firm4 months agoCA

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by third_law_firm · 4 months ago
Should I record him during arguments

Started by record_or_not4 months agoCA

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by record_or_not · 4 months ago
Imputed income — they're saying I could earn more

Started by imputed_pressure4 months agoCA

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by imputed_pressure · 4 months ago
Typo in my judgment — do I need a new judgment?

Started by deepwater4 months agoCA

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by deepwater · 4 months ago
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by rosa_p · 4 months ago
Should we do a legal trial separation before divorcing?

Started by newleaf20264 months agoCA

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by newleaf2026 · 4 months ago
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by hopeful_dawn · 4 months ago
Is our prenup actually enforceable now?

Started by rosa_p4 months agoCA

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by rosa_p · 4 months ago
Should I waive spousal support forever to get this done?

Started by willow_oak4 months agoCA

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by willow_oak · 4 months ago
Anyone use a free Marital Settlement Agreement template?

Started by newleaf20264 months agoCA

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by newleaf2026 · 4 months ago
Can I make my spouse pay my attorney fees?

Started by starting_over_20264 months agoCA

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by starting_over_2026 · 4 months ago
Dissolving a CA domestic partnership — same as divorce?

Started by quietsail4 months agoCA

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by quietsail · 4 months ago
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by amal_k · 4 months ago
What's the UCCJEA form (FL-105) for?

Started by deepwater4 months agoCA

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by deepwater · 4 months ago
Will I qualify for a court fee waiver?

Started by j_ramos4 months agoCA

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by j_ramos · 4 months ago
Judgment signed — now what?

Started by marisol_v4 months agoCA

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by marisol_v · 4 months ago
Spouse moved overseas — how do I serve them?

Started by rosa_p4 months agoCA

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by rosa_p · 4 months ago
What's a 'status only' judgment / bifurcation?

Started by starting_over_20264 months agoCA

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by starting_over_2026 · 4 months ago
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by hopeful_dawn · 4 months ago
What's a QDRO and do I need one?

Started by deepwater4 months agoCA

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by deepwater · 4 months ago
30-year marriage ending. Where do I even start?

Started by willow_oak4 months agoCA

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by willow_oak · 4 months ago
Is mediation actually cheaper than going through lawyers?

Started by newleaf20264 months agoCA

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by newleaf2026 · 4 months ago
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by rosa_p · 4 months ago
What actually counts as the 'date of separation'?

Started by sunflower_la4 months agoCA

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by sunflower_la · 4 months ago
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by quietsail · 4 months ago
Clerk rejected my judgment package — what now?

Started by deepwater4 months agoCA

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by deepwater · 4 months ago
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by j_ramos · 4 months ago
Biggest financial disclosure mistakes to avoid?

Started by starting_over_20264 months agoCA

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by starting_over_2026 · 4 months ago
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by newleaf2026 · 4 months ago
Anyone use Summary Dissolution? Did you qualify?

Started by hopeful_dawn4 months agoCA

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by hopeful_dawn · 4 months ago
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by quietcreek · 4 months ago
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by marisol_v · 4 months ago
What exactly are the financial disclosure forms?

Started by j_ramos4 months agoCA

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by j_ramos · 4 months ago
Did you restore your former name in the divorce?

Started by deepwater4 months agoCA

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by deepwater · 4 months ago
What was your experience using a process server?

Started by quietcreek4 months agoCA

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by quietcreek · 4 months ago
Lawyer wants $15k retainer for a contested divorce

Started by fifteen_k_retainer4 months agoCA

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by fifteen_k_retainer · 4 months ago
DV TRO and divorce — do they connect

Started by two_cases_one_him4 months agoCA

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by two_cases_one_him · 4 months ago
Disclosure forms are 40 pages and I don't know where to start

Started by paperwork_panic4 months agoCA

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by paperwork_panic · 4 months ago
Deposition — is it as scary as people say

Started by depo_in_two_weeks4 months agoCA

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by depo_in_two_weeks · 4 months ago
Move-away request — moving for a job

Started by job_offer_north4 months agoCA

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by job_offer_north · 4 months ago
When does the court appoint an attorney for the children

Started by minors_counsel_q4 months agoCA

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by minors_counsel_q · 4 months ago
Court denied my fee waiver and I'm done

Started by fee_denied_again4 months agoCA

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by fee_denied_again · 4 months ago
Do I really need a lawyer for an uncontested divorce

Started by amicable_split4 months agoCA

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by amicable_split · 4 months ago
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by pro_tem_what · 4 months ago
How do I get past wanting him back

Started by still_miss_him4 months agoCA

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by still_miss_him · 4 months ago
What is a parenting plan supposed to include

Started by two_paragraphs4 months agoCA

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by two_paragraphs · 4 months ago
Custody evaluation — they sent a 730 evaluator

Started by seven_thirty4 months agoCA

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by seven_thirty · 4 months ago
Self help center — what to bring on first visit

Started by first_self_help4 months agoCA

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by first_self_help · 4 months ago
Living together but not married — what happens when we split

Started by never_made_it_legal4 months agoCA

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by never_made_it_legal · 4 months ago
Dating during a pending divorce

Started by missing_being_seen4 months agoCA

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by missing_being_seen · 4 months ago
Domestic violence diversion class — what happens next

Started by fifty_two_weeks4 months agoCA

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by fifty_two_weeks · 4 months ago
How is custody actually decided when parents disagree

Started by best_interest_who4 months agoCA

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by best_interest_who · 4 months ago
Pro bono — does anyone actually qualify

Started by too_rich_too_poor4 months agoCA

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by too_rich_too_poor · 4 months ago
He stopped paying child support and there's an order

Started by owed_six_months4 months agoCA

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by owed_six_months · 4 months ago
Discovery requests — what is a request for production

Started by discovery_drowning4 months agoCA

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by discovery_drowning · 4 months ago
Limited scope lawyer — anyone tried that route

Started by unbundled_legal4 months agoCA

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by unbundled_legal · 4 months ago
Discord groups for going through divorce

Started by tired_of_crying_alone4 months agoCA

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by tired_of_crying_alone · 4 months ago
Contempt of court — when is it worth filing

Started by contempt_question4 months agoCA

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by contempt_question · 4 months ago
Can the judge order us to therapy

Started by ordered_therapy4 months agoCA

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by ordered_therapy · 4 months ago
How do you tell your boss you're going through divorce

Started by work_finding_out4 months agoCA

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by work_finding_out · 4 months ago
Spousal support after a 6 year marriage in CA

Started by calculating_future4 months agoCA

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by calculating_future · 4 months ago
He's hiding the kids' passports

Started by passports_locked4 months agoCA

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by passports_locked · 4 months ago
Recusal — judge made a comment about me

Started by biased_bench4 months agoCA

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by biased_bench · 4 months ago
Filing in the wrong county — does it matter

Started by wrong_courthouse4 months agoCA

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by wrong_courthouse · 4 months ago
Date of separation matters and I can't pin it down

Started by separated_when4 months agoCA

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by separated_when · 4 months ago
Premarital agreement — is it really enforceable

Started by prenup_panic4 months agoCA

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by prenup_panic · 4 months ago
Commingled funds — I deposited my inheritance in joint checking

Started by commingled_oops4 months agoCA

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by commingled_oops · 4 months ago
Modest means panel — what is that

Started by modest_means_curious4 months agoCA

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by modest_means_curious · 4 months ago
Default judgment in my favor — can he undo it later

Started by default_undo4 months agoCA

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by default_undo · 4 months ago
Cheating ex got everyone in our friend group to take his side

Started by friend_group_split4 months agoCA

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by friend_group_split · 4 months ago
DCSS — has anyone used the child support agency

Started by considering_dcss4 months agoCA

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by considering_dcss · 4 months ago
What's the deal with separate property

Started by grandma_inheritance4 months agoCA

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by grandma_inheritance · 4 months ago
How do I figure out what's community property

Started by 401k_question4 months agoCA

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by 401k_question · 4 months ago
Adultery — does it matter in California

Started by kept_receipts4 months agoCA

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by kept_receipts · 4 months ago
Temporary orders — how temporary is temporary

Started by temp_means_what4 months agoCA

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by temp_means_what · 4 months ago
My kids are taking his side

Started by teens_cold4 months agoCA

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by teens_cold · 4 months ago
Filing online vs in person — which is faster

Started by efile_or_paper4 months agoCA

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by efile_or_paper · 4 months ago
House is in his name only but I paid the mortgage for 8 years

Started by equity_share4 months agoCA

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by equity_share · 4 months ago
Spousal support — how does the judge pick the number

Started by support_calc4 months agoCA

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by support_calc · 4 months ago
Tracing — is it worth chasing

Started by tracing_costs4 months agoCA

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by tracing_costs · 4 months ago
I read his texts — admissible or not

Started by screenshots_ready4 months agoCA

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by screenshots_ready · 4 months ago
Crypto in the divorce

Started by crypto_question4 months agoCA

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by crypto_question · 4 months ago
He's hiding income through his business

Started by ledger_lies4 months agoCA

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by ledger_lies · 4 months ago
Telling your own parents you're divorcing

Started by parents_will_be_sad4 months agoCA

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by parents_will_be_sad · 4 months ago
Reconciliation while case is pending — does that pause it

Started by tried_again4 months agoCA

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by tried_again · 4 months ago
What is a settlement conference and is it required

Started by msc_mandatory4 months agoCA

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by msc_mandatory · 4 months ago
Can I get reimbursed for the mortgage I've been paying alone

Started by epstein_credit4 months agoCA

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by epstein_credit · 4 months ago
Lawyer keeps using terms I don't understand

Started by latin_legal4 months agoCA

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by latin_legal · 4 months ago
International travel with kids after divorce

Started by wants_to_visit_lola4 months agoCA

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by wants_to_visit_lola · 4 months ago
Online divorce services — legit or trap

Started by one_fifty_nine4 months agoCA

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by one_fifty_nine · 4 months ago
Tribal court jurisdiction — both members, ICWA child

Started by tribal_court_q4 months agoCA

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by tribal_court_q · 4 months ago
Watts credits — heard this term, no idea

Started by free_rent_for_him4 months agoCA

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by free_rent_for_him · 4 months ago
Standing temporary orders — they exist before I even ask?

Started by automatic_trots4 months agoCA

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by automatic_trots · 4 months ago
How to find a divorce financial planner

Started by cdfa_question4 months agoCA

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by cdfa_question · 4 months ago
Annulment vs divorce — which one applies

Started by bigamy_surprise4 months agoCA

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by bigamy_surprise · 4 months ago
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by nonbio_mom · 4 months ago
Vehicle title in only his name but I drove it for 9 years

Started by lexus_question4 months agoCA

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by lexus_question · 4 months ago
Divorce after 25 years — gray divorce questions

Started by twenty_five_year4 months agoCA

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by twenty_five_year · 4 months ago
Service by publication — really? In a newspaper?

Started by publish_newspaper5 months agoCA

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by publish_newspaper · 5 months ago
DivorceCare vs therapy — anyone done both

Started by two_kinds_help5 months agoCA

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by two_kinds_help · 5 months ago
Joint legal vs joint physical — confused

Started by joint_legal_means5 months agoCA

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by joint_legal_means · 5 months ago
Divorce coach — is this a real thing or a scam

Started by coach_curious5 months agoCA

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by coach_curious · 5 months ago
Got divorced, ex won't sign the deed transfer

Started by wont_sign_deed5 months agoCA

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by wont_sign_deed · 5 months ago
Pension valuation — what is a QDRO

Started by pension_pieces5 months agoCA

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by pension_pieces · 5 months ago
Domestic partnership dissolution — different from divorce

Started by rdp_unwinding5 months agoCA

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by rdp_unwinding · 5 months ago
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by joint_llc · 5 months ago
How do I serve someone I can't find

Started by missing_spouse5 months agoCA

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by missing_spouse · 5 months ago
Does the 6-month waiting period really start at filing?

Started by member-5ba4b35 months agoCA

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by member-5ba4b3 · 5 months ago
Social Security as a divorced spouse — really a thing

Started by ss_question_50s5 months agoCA

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by ss_question_50s · 5 months ago
Health savings account split

Started by hsa_split5 months agoCA

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by hsa_split · 5 months ago
Divorce trial — how many people actually go to one

Started by going_to_trial5 months agoCA

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by going_to_trial · 5 months ago
What is bifurcation and would it help me

Started by want_to_be_single5 months agoCA

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by want_to_be_single · 5 months ago
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by guatemala_marriage · 5 months ago
Wedding rings — what do you do with them

Started by ring_in_drawer5 months agoCA

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by ring_in_drawer · 5 months ago
Health insurance after divorce — losing his coverage

Started by insurance_cliff5 months agoCA

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by insurance_cliff · 5 months ago
What does 'irreconcilable differences' actually mean

Started by no_fault_state5 months agoCA

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by no_fault_state · 5 months ago
Vexatious litigant — how does someone get labeled this

Started by eleven_motions5 months agoCA

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by eleven_motions · 5 months ago
SCRA — does my spouse get to delay because of deployment

Started by scra_delay5 months agoCA

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by scra_delay · 5 months ago
Holiday schedule and we've never written one down

Started by holiday_war5 months agoCA

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by holiday_war · 5 months ago
Modification of custody — what is a substantial change

Started by substantial_change5 months agoCA

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by substantial_change · 5 months ago
Stepkids' relationship with me after divorce

Started by step_mom_for_75 months agoCA

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by step_mom_for_7 · 5 months ago
Frequent flyer miles in divorce

Started by miles_in_play5 months agoCA

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by miles_in_play · 5 months ago
Putative spouse — heard this term

Started by maybe_not_married5 months agoCA

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by maybe_not_married · 5 months ago
Sanctions — fees for being a jerk

Started by fee_sanctions5 months agoCA

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by fee_sanctions · 5 months ago
Divorce with a deployed spouse

Started by navy_spouse5 months agoCA

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by navy_spouse · 5 months ago
Step-parent adoption — bio dad has been gone 9 years

Started by real_dad_at_home5 months agoCA

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by real_dad_at_home · 5 months ago
Postnuptial agreement after he had an affair

Started by postnup_kept5 months agoCA

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by postnup_kept · 5 months ago
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by member-5ba4b3 · 5 months ago
Engagement ring — give back or keep

Started by ring_kept5 months agoCA

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by ring_kept · 5 months ago
Tax filing status while divorce is pending

Started by april_15_panic5 months agoCA

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by april_15_panic · 5 months ago
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