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Name changePost-divorce

Order says my name is changed — what do I update first?

CArosa_p1 month ago

Court order in hand. What order do I update — Social Security, DMV, passport, bank?

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marisol_v1 month ago

Order I used: (1) Social Security first (free, in-person at any SSA office with the court order and ID), (2) DMV next (you need updated SSA records first or they kick it), (3) passport (DS-82 by mail, $130), (4) bank/credit cards last (most just need an SSA confirmation + ID). Took me about a month start to finish.

j_ramos1 month ago

+1 to the SSA-first order. DMV told me they wouldn't process until SSA was updated.

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