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Mediation tomorrow and I'm terrified

Started by first_mediation2 months agoCA

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by first_mediation · 2 months ago

Ex parte — heard this is for emergencies

Started by ex_parte_panic2 months agoCA

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by ex_parte_panic · 2 months ago

Just got served and I have no idea what's happening

Started by blindsided_222 months agoCA

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by blindsided_22 · 2 months ago

Can he take me off the car insurance during the case

Started by kicked_off_auto2 months agoCA

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by kicked_off_auto · 2 months ago

Will my immigration status come up in divorce

Started by status_threat2 months agoCA

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by status_threat · 2 months ago

Restraining order in the middle of a divorce

Started by broken_window2 months agoCA

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by broken_window · 2 months ago

He took the kids to his mother's and won't bring them back

Started by missing_kids_now2 months agoCA

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by missing_kids_now · 2 months ago

Lawyer wants to withdraw 3 weeks before trial

Started by lawyer_walking2 months agoCA

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by lawyer_walking · 2 months ago

My lawyer ghosted me three weeks ago

Started by ghosted_client2 months agoCA

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by ghosted_client · 2 months ago

Discovery deadline missed — by me

Started by missed_discovery2 months agoCA

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by missed_discovery · 2 months ago

He emptied the joint account the day I filed

Started by scared_and_broke2 months agoCA

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by scared_and_broke · 2 months ago

Dog custody — please don't laugh

Started by dog_mom_first2 months agoCA

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by dog_mom_first · 2 months ago

He's saying I'm an unfit mother because I work nights

Started by night_shift_mom2 months agoCA

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by night_shift_mom · 2 months ago

Notice of entry of judgment in the mail

Started by the_big_paper2 months agoCA

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by the_big_paper · 2 months ago

Can I move out of the house before the divorce is final

Started by stuck_at_home2 months agoCA

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by stuck_at_home · 2 months ago

Filed last month, spouse still hasn't been served

Started by tired_in_sac2 months agoCA

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by tired_in_sac · 2 months ago

Final judgment package keeps getting kicked back

Started by judgment_rejected2 months agoCA

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by judgment_rejected · 2 months ago

What is an RFO and why do I need to file one

Started by rfo_what2 months agoCA

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by rfo_what · 2 months ago

Filing fee waiver — what they actually look at

Started by snap_fee_waiver3 months agoCA

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by snap_fee_waiver · 3 months ago

Pro per — can I really represent myself

Started by going_pro_per3 months agoCA

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by going_pro_per · 3 months ago

He won't return the kids on Sunday like the order says

Started by sunday_six_pm3 months agoCA

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by sunday_six_pm · 3 months ago

Custody when one parent has bipolar disorder

Started by stable_six_years3 months agoCA

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by stable_six_years · 3 months ago

How long after filing until first court date

Started by waiting_in_silence3 months agoCA

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by waiting_in_silence · 3 months ago

Default judgment — what does that actually mean for me

Started by missed_deadline3 months agoCA

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by missed_deadline · 3 months ago

Why do I have to give him my W-2s

Started by private_paycheck3 months agoCA

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by private_paycheck · 3 months ago

U visa victim of DV — separate process from divorce

Started by u_visa_dv3 months agoCA

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by u_visa_dv · 3 months ago

What does 'judgment entered' mean

Started by judgment_entered_now3 months agoCA

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by judgment_entered_now · 3 months ago

School enrollment — he won't sign the forms

Started by kinder_registration3 months agoCA

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by kinder_registration · 3 months ago

Frozen credit cards mid divorce

Started by frozen_credit3 months agoCA

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by frozen_credit · 3 months ago

She filed for divorce and I want to reconcile

Started by second_chances3 months agoCA

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by second_chances · 3 months ago

Name change after divorce — DMV won't accept the form

Started by dmv_name_change3 months agoCA

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by dmv_name_change · 3 months ago

Spouse keeps changing lawyers

Started by third_law_firm3 months agoCA

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by third_law_firm · 3 months ago

Should I record him during arguments

Started by record_or_not3 months agoCA

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by record_or_not · 3 months ago

Imputed income — they're saying I could earn more

Started by imputed_pressure3 months agoCA

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by imputed_pressure · 3 months ago

My stepkids feel like second-class kids in our blended family

Started by anon_blended3 months agoCA

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by anon_blended · 3 months ago

How long is an I-130 for a spouse actually taking right now?

Started by j_ramos3 months agoCA

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by j_ramos · 3 months ago

Landlord won't renew our lease — we have a newborn

Started by willow_oak3 months agoCA

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by willow_oak · 3 months ago

Lawyer wants $15k retainer for a contested divorce

Started by fifteen_k_retainer3 months agoCA

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by fifteen_k_retainer · 3 months ago

DV TRO and divorce — do they connect

Started by two_cases_one_him3 months agoCA

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by two_cases_one_him · 3 months ago

Disclosure forms are 40 pages and I don't know where to start

Started by paperwork_panic3 months agoCA

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by paperwork_panic · 3 months ago

Deposition — is it as scary as people say

Started by depo_in_two_weeks3 months agoCA

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by depo_in_two_weeks · 3 months ago

Move-away request — moving for a job

Started by job_offer_north3 months agoCA

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by job_offer_north · 3 months ago

When does the court appoint an attorney for the children

Started by minors_counsel_q3 months agoCA

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by minors_counsel_q · 3 months ago

Court denied my fee waiver and I'm done

Started by fee_denied_again3 months agoCA

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by fee_denied_again · 3 months ago

Do I really need a lawyer for an uncontested divorce

Started by amicable_split3 months agoCA

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by amicable_split · 3 months ago

Judge pro tem at our hearing — different from a regular judge

Started by pro_tem_what3 months agoCA

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by pro_tem_what · 3 months ago

How do I get past wanting him back

Started by still_miss_him3 months agoCA

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by still_miss_him · 3 months ago

What is a parenting plan supposed to include

Started by two_paragraphs3 months agoCA

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by two_paragraphs · 3 months ago

Custody evaluation — they sent a 730 evaluator

Started by seven_thirty3 months agoCA

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by seven_thirty · 3 months ago

Self help center — what to bring on first visit

Started by first_self_help3 months agoCA

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by first_self_help · 3 months ago

Living together but not married — what happens when we split

Started by never_made_it_legal3 months agoCA

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by never_made_it_legal · 3 months ago

Dating during a pending divorce

Started by missing_being_seen3 months agoCA

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by missing_being_seen · 3 months ago

Domestic violence diversion class — what happens next

Started by fifty_two_weeks3 months agoCA

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by fifty_two_weeks · 3 months ago

How is custody actually decided when parents disagree

Started by best_interest_who3 months agoCA

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by best_interest_who · 3 months ago

Pro bono — does anyone actually qualify

Started by too_rich_too_poor3 months agoCA

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by too_rich_too_poor · 3 months ago

He stopped paying child support and there's an order

Started by owed_six_months3 months agoCA

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by owed_six_months · 3 months ago

Discovery requests — what is a request for production

Started by discovery_drowning3 months agoCA

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by discovery_drowning · 3 months ago

Limited scope lawyer — anyone tried that route

Started by unbundled_legal3 months agoCA

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by unbundled_legal · 3 months ago

Discord groups for going through divorce

Started by tired_of_crying_alone3 months agoCA

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by tired_of_crying_alone · 3 months ago

Contempt of court — when is it worth filing

Started by contempt_question3 months agoCA

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by contempt_question · 3 months ago

Can the judge order us to therapy

Started by ordered_therapy3 months agoCA

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by ordered_therapy · 3 months ago

How do you tell your boss you're going through divorce

Started by work_finding_out3 months agoCA

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by work_finding_out · 3 months ago

Spousal support after a 6 year marriage in CA

Started by calculating_future3 months agoCA

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by calculating_future · 3 months ago

He's hiding the kids' passports

Started by passports_locked3 months agoCA

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by passports_locked · 3 months ago

Recusal — judge made a comment about me

Started by biased_bench3 months agoCA

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by biased_bench · 3 months ago

Filing in the wrong county — does it matter

Started by wrong_courthouse3 months agoCA

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by wrong_courthouse · 3 months ago

Date of separation matters and I can't pin it down

Started by separated_when3 months agoCA

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by separated_when · 3 months ago

Premarital agreement — is it really enforceable

Started by prenup_panic3 months agoCA

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by prenup_panic · 3 months ago

Commingled funds — I deposited my inheritance in joint checking

Started by commingled_oops3 months agoCA

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by commingled_oops · 3 months ago

Modest means panel — what is that

Started by modest_means_curious3 months agoCA

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by modest_means_curious · 3 months ago

Default judgment in my favor — can he undo it later

Started by default_undo3 months agoCA

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by default_undo · 3 months ago

Cheating ex got everyone in our friend group to take his side

Started by friend_group_split3 months agoCA

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by friend_group_split · 3 months ago

DCSS — has anyone used the child support agency

Started by considering_dcss3 months agoCA

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by considering_dcss · 3 months ago

What's the deal with separate property

Started by grandma_inheritance3 months agoCA

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by grandma_inheritance · 3 months ago

How do I figure out what's community property

Started by 401k_question3 months agoCA

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by 401k_question · 3 months ago

Adultery — does it matter in California

Started by kept_receipts3 months agoCA

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by kept_receipts · 3 months ago

Temporary orders — how temporary is temporary

Started by temp_means_what3 months agoCA

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by temp_means_what · 3 months ago

My kids are taking his side

Started by teens_cold3 months agoCA

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by teens_cold · 3 months ago

Filing online vs in person — which is faster

Started by efile_or_paper3 months agoCA

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by efile_or_paper · 3 months ago

House is in his name only but I paid the mortgage for 8 years

Started by equity_share3 months agoCA

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by equity_share · 3 months ago

Spousal support — how does the judge pick the number

Started by support_calc3 months agoCA

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by support_calc · 3 months ago

Tracing — is it worth chasing

Started by tracing_costs3 months agoCA

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by tracing_costs · 3 months ago

I read his texts — admissible or not

Started by screenshots_ready3 months agoCA

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by screenshots_ready · 3 months ago

Crypto in the divorce

Started by crypto_question3 months agoCA

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by crypto_question · 3 months ago

He's hiding income through his business

Started by ledger_lies3 months agoCA

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by ledger_lies · 3 months ago

Telling your own parents you're divorcing

Started by parents_will_be_sad3 months agoCA

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by parents_will_be_sad · 3 months ago

Reconciliation while case is pending — does that pause it

Started by tried_again3 months agoCA

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by tried_again · 3 months ago

What is a settlement conference and is it required

Started by msc_mandatory3 months agoCA

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by msc_mandatory · 3 months ago

Can I get reimbursed for the mortgage I've been paying alone

Started by epstein_credit3 months agoCA

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by epstein_credit · 3 months ago

Lawyer keeps using terms I don't understand

Started by latin_legal3 months agoCA

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by latin_legal · 3 months ago

International travel with kids after divorce

Started by wants_to_visit_lola3 months agoCA

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by wants_to_visit_lola · 3 months ago

Online divorce services — legit or trap

Started by one_fifty_nine3 months agoCA

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by one_fifty_nine · 3 months ago

Tribal court jurisdiction — both members, ICWA child

Started by tribal_court_q3 months agoCA

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by tribal_court_q · 3 months ago

Watts credits — heard this term, no idea

Started by free_rent_for_him3 months agoCA

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by free_rent_for_him · 3 months ago

Standing temporary orders — they exist before I even ask?

Started by automatic_trots3 months agoCA

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by automatic_trots · 3 months ago

How to find a divorce financial planner

Started by cdfa_question3 months agoCA

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by cdfa_question · 3 months ago

Annulment vs divorce — which one applies

Started by bigamy_surprise3 months agoCA

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by bigamy_surprise · 3 months ago

Same-sex divorce in CA — anything I should know that's different

Started by nonbio_mom3 months agoCA

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by nonbio_mom · 3 months ago

Vehicle title in only his name but I drove it for 9 years

Started by lexus_question3 months agoCA

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by lexus_question · 3 months ago

Divorce after 25 years — gray divorce questions

Started by twenty_five_year3 months agoCA

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by twenty_five_year · 3 months ago

Service by publication — really? In a newspaper?

Started by publish_newspaper3 months agoCA

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by publish_newspaper · 3 months ago

DivorceCare vs therapy — anyone done both

Started by two_kinds_help3 months agoCA

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by two_kinds_help · 3 months ago

Joint legal vs joint physical — confused

Started by joint_legal_means3 months agoCA

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by joint_legal_means · 3 months ago

Divorce coach — is this a real thing or a scam

Started by coach_curious3 months agoCA

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by coach_curious · 3 months ago

Got divorced, ex won't sign the deed transfer

Started by wont_sign_deed3 months agoCA

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by wont_sign_deed · 3 months ago

Pension valuation — what is a QDRO

Started by pension_pieces3 months agoCA

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by pension_pieces · 3 months ago

Domestic partnership dissolution — different from divorce

Started by rdp_unwinding3 months agoCA

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by rdp_unwinding · 3 months ago

Joint business — neither of us wants to buy out the other

Started by joint_llc3 months agoCA

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by joint_llc · 3 months ago

How do I serve someone I can't find

Started by missing_spouse3 months agoCA

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by missing_spouse · 3 months ago

Social Security as a divorced spouse — really a thing

Started by ss_question_50s3 months agoCA

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by ss_question_50s · 3 months ago

Health savings account split

Started by hsa_split3 months agoCA

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by hsa_split · 3 months ago

Divorce trial — how many people actually go to one

Started by going_to_trial3 months agoCA

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by going_to_trial · 3 months ago

What is bifurcation and would it help me

Started by want_to_be_single3 months agoCA

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by want_to_be_single · 3 months ago

Marriage certificate is in Spanish — does the court need a translation

Started by guatemala_marriage3 months agoCA

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by guatemala_marriage · 3 months ago

Wedding rings — what do you do with them

Started by ring_in_drawer3 months agoCA

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by ring_in_drawer · 3 months ago

Health insurance after divorce — losing his coverage

Started by insurance_cliff3 months agoCA

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by insurance_cliff · 3 months ago

What does 'irreconcilable differences' actually mean

Started by no_fault_state3 months agoCA

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by no_fault_state · 3 months ago

Vexatious litigant — how does someone get labeled this

Started by eleven_motions3 months agoCA

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by eleven_motions · 3 months ago

SCRA — does my spouse get to delay because of deployment

Started by scra_delay3 months agoCA

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by scra_delay · 3 months ago

Holiday schedule and we've never written one down

Started by holiday_war3 months agoCA

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by holiday_war · 3 months ago

Modification of custody — what is a substantial change

Started by substantial_change3 months agoCA

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by substantial_change · 3 months ago

Stepkids' relationship with me after divorce

Started by step_mom_for_73 months agoCA

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by step_mom_for_7 · 3 months ago

Frequent flyer miles in divorce

Started by miles_in_play3 months agoCA

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by miles_in_play · 3 months ago

Putative spouse — heard this term

Started by maybe_not_married3 months agoCA

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by maybe_not_married · 3 months ago

Sanctions — fees for being a jerk

Started by fee_sanctions3 months agoCA

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by fee_sanctions · 3 months ago

Divorce with a deployed spouse

Started by navy_spouse3 months agoCA

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by navy_spouse · 3 months ago

Step-parent adoption — bio dad has been gone 9 years

Started by real_dad_at_home3 months agoCA

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by real_dad_at_home · 3 months ago

Postnuptial agreement after he had an affair

Started by postnup_kept3 months agoCA

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by postnup_kept · 3 months ago

Engagement ring — give back or keep

Started by ring_kept3 months agoCA

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by ring_kept · 3 months ago

Tax filing status while divorce is pending

Started by april_15_panic4 months agoCA

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by april_15_panic · 4 months ago

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