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Mediation tomorrow and I'm terrified

Started by first_mediation1 month agoCA

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by first_mediation · 1 month ago
Ex parte — heard this is for emergencies

Started by ex_parte_panic1 month agoCA

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by ex_parte_panic · 1 month ago
Just got served and I have no idea what's happening

Started by blindsided_221 month agoCA

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by blindsided_22 · 1 month ago
Can he take me off the car insurance during the case

Started by kicked_off_auto1 month agoCA

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by kicked_off_auto · 1 month ago
Will my immigration status come up in divorce

Started by status_threat1 month agoCA

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by status_threat · 1 month ago
Restraining order in the middle of a divorce

Started by broken_window1 month agoCA

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by broken_window · 1 month ago
He took the kids to his mother's and won't bring them back

Started by missing_kids_now1 month agoCA

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by missing_kids_now · 1 month ago
Lawyer wants to withdraw 3 weeks before trial

Started by lawyer_walking1 month agoCA

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by lawyer_walking · 1 month ago
My lawyer ghosted me three weeks ago

Started by ghosted_client1 month agoCA

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by ghosted_client · 1 month ago
Discovery deadline missed — by me

Started by missed_discovery1 month agoCA

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by missed_discovery · 1 month ago
He emptied the joint account the day I filed

Started by scared_and_broke1 month agoCA

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by scared_and_broke · 1 month ago
Dog custody — please don't laugh

Started by dog_mom_first1 month agoCA

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by dog_mom_first · 1 month ago
He's saying I'm an unfit mother because I work nights

Started by night_shift_mom1 month agoCA

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by night_shift_mom · 1 month ago
Notice of entry of judgment in the mail

Started by the_big_paper1 month agoCA

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by the_big_paper · 1 month ago
Can I move out of the house before the divorce is final

Started by stuck_at_home1 month agoCA

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by stuck_at_home · 1 month ago
Filed last month, spouse still hasn't been served

Started by tired_in_sac1 month agoCA

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by tired_in_sac · 1 month ago
Final judgment package keeps getting kicked back

Started by judgment_rejected1 month agoCA

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by judgment_rejected · 1 month ago
What is an RFO and why do I need to file one

Started by rfo_what1 month agoCA

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by rfo_what · 1 month ago
Filing fee waiver — what they actually look at

Started by snap_fee_waiver1 month agoCA

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by snap_fee_waiver · 1 month ago
Pro per — can I really represent myself

Started by going_pro_per1 month agoCA

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by going_pro_per · 1 month ago
He won't return the kids on Sunday like the order says

Started by sunday_six_pm1 month agoCA

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by sunday_six_pm · 1 month ago
Custody when one parent has bipolar disorder

Started by stable_six_years1 month agoCA

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by stable_six_years · 1 month ago
How long after filing until first court date

Started by waiting_in_silence1 month agoCA

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by waiting_in_silence · 1 month ago
Default judgment — what does that actually mean for me

Started by missed_deadline1 month agoCA

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by missed_deadline · 1 month ago
Why do I have to give him my W-2s

Started by private_paycheck1 month agoCA

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by private_paycheck · 1 month ago
U visa victim of DV — separate process from divorce

Started by u_visa_dv1 month agoCA

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by u_visa_dv · 1 month ago
What does 'judgment entered' mean

Started by judgment_entered_now1 month agoCA

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by judgment_entered_now · 1 month ago
School enrollment — he won't sign the forms

Started by kinder_registration1 month agoCA

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by kinder_registration · 1 month ago
Frozen credit cards mid divorce

Started by frozen_credit1 month agoCA

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by frozen_credit · 1 month ago
She filed for divorce and I want to reconcile

Started by second_chances1 month agoCA

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by second_chances · 1 month ago
Name change after divorce — DMV won't accept the form

Started by dmv_name_change1 month agoCA

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by dmv_name_change · 1 month ago
Spouse keeps changing lawyers

Started by third_law_firm1 month agoCA

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by third_law_firm · 1 month ago
Should I record him during arguments

Started by record_or_not1 month agoCA

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by record_or_not · 1 month ago
Imputed income — they're saying I could earn more

Started by imputed_pressure1 month agoCA

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by imputed_pressure · 1 month ago
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by anon_blended · 1 month ago
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by j_ramos · 1 month ago
Landlord won't renew our lease — we have a newborn

Started by willow_oak1 month agoCA

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by willow_oak · 1 month ago
Lawyer wants $15k retainer for a contested divorce

Started by fifteen_k_retainer1 month agoCA

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by fifteen_k_retainer · 1 month ago
DV TRO and divorce — do they connect

Started by two_cases_one_him1 month agoCA

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by two_cases_one_him · 1 month ago
Disclosure forms are 40 pages and I don't know where to start

Started by paperwork_panic1 month agoCA

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by paperwork_panic · 1 month ago
Deposition — is it as scary as people say

Started by depo_in_two_weeks1 month agoCA

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by depo_in_two_weeks · 1 month ago
Move-away request — moving for a job

Started by job_offer_north1 month agoCA

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by job_offer_north · 1 month ago
When does the court appoint an attorney for the children

Started by minors_counsel_q1 month agoCA

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by minors_counsel_q · 1 month ago
Court denied my fee waiver and I'm done

Started by fee_denied_again1 month agoCA

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by fee_denied_again · 1 month ago
Do I really need a lawyer for an uncontested divorce

Started by amicable_split1 month agoCA

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by amicable_split · 1 month ago
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by pro_tem_what · 1 month ago
How do I get past wanting him back

Started by still_miss_him1 month agoCA

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by still_miss_him · 1 month ago
What is a parenting plan supposed to include

Started by two_paragraphs1 month agoCA

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by two_paragraphs · 1 month ago
Custody evaluation — they sent a 730 evaluator

Started by seven_thirty1 month agoCA

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by seven_thirty · 1 month ago
Self help center — what to bring on first visit

Started by first_self_help1 month agoCA

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by first_self_help · 1 month ago
Living together but not married — what happens when we split

Started by never_made_it_legal1 month agoCA

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by never_made_it_legal · 1 month ago
Dating during a pending divorce

Started by missing_being_seen1 month agoCA

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by missing_being_seen · 1 month ago
Domestic violence diversion class — what happens next

Started by fifty_two_weeks1 month agoCA

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by fifty_two_weeks · 1 month ago
How is custody actually decided when parents disagree

Started by best_interest_who1 month agoCA

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by best_interest_who · 1 month ago
Pro bono — does anyone actually qualify

Started by too_rich_too_poor1 month agoCA

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by too_rich_too_poor · 1 month ago
He stopped paying child support and there's an order

Started by owed_six_months1 month agoCA

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by owed_six_months · 1 month ago
Discovery requests — what is a request for production

Started by discovery_drowning1 month agoCA

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by discovery_drowning · 1 month ago
Limited scope lawyer — anyone tried that route

Started by unbundled_legal1 month agoCA

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by unbundled_legal · 1 month ago
Discord groups for going through divorce

Started by tired_of_crying_alone1 month agoCA

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by tired_of_crying_alone · 1 month ago
Contempt of court — when is it worth filing

Started by contempt_question1 month agoCA

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by contempt_question · 1 month ago
Can the judge order us to therapy

Started by ordered_therapy1 month agoCA

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by ordered_therapy · 1 month ago
How do you tell your boss you're going through divorce

Started by work_finding_out1 month agoCA

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by work_finding_out · 1 month ago
Spousal support after a 6 year marriage in CA

Started by calculating_future1 month agoCA

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by calculating_future · 1 month ago
He's hiding the kids' passports

Started by passports_locked1 month agoCA

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by passports_locked · 1 month ago
Recusal — judge made a comment about me

Started by biased_bench1 month agoCA

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by biased_bench · 1 month ago
Filing in the wrong county — does it matter

Started by wrong_courthouse1 month agoCA

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by wrong_courthouse · 1 month ago
Date of separation matters and I can't pin it down

Started by separated_when1 month agoCA

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by separated_when · 1 month ago
Premarital agreement — is it really enforceable

Started by prenup_panic1 month agoCA

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by prenup_panic · 1 month ago
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by commingled_oops · 1 month ago
Modest means panel — what is that

Started by modest_means_curious1 month agoCA

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by modest_means_curious · 1 month ago
Default judgment in my favor — can he undo it later

Started by default_undo1 month agoCA

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by default_undo · 1 month ago
Cheating ex got everyone in our friend group to take his side

Started by friend_group_split1 month agoCA

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by friend_group_split · 1 month ago
DCSS — has anyone used the child support agency

Started by considering_dcss1 month agoCA

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by considering_dcss · 1 month ago
What's the deal with separate property

Started by grandma_inheritance1 month agoCA

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by grandma_inheritance · 1 month ago
How do I figure out what's community property

Started by 401k_question1 month agoCA

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by 401k_question · 1 month ago
Adultery — does it matter in California

Started by kept_receipts1 month agoCA

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by kept_receipts · 1 month ago
Temporary orders — how temporary is temporary

Started by temp_means_what1 month agoCA

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by temp_means_what · 1 month ago
My kids are taking his side

Started by teens_cold1 month agoCA

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by teens_cold · 1 month ago
Filing online vs in person — which is faster

Started by efile_or_paper1 month agoCA

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by efile_or_paper · 1 month ago
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by equity_share · 1 month ago
Spousal support — how does the judge pick the number

Started by support_calc1 month agoCA

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by support_calc · 1 month ago
Tracing — is it worth chasing

Started by tracing_costs1 month agoCA

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by tracing_costs · 1 month ago
I read his texts — admissible or not

Started by screenshots_ready1 month agoCA

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by screenshots_ready · 1 month ago
Crypto in the divorce

Started by crypto_question1 month agoCA

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by crypto_question · 1 month ago
He's hiding income through his business

Started by ledger_lies1 month agoCA

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by ledger_lies · 1 month ago
Telling your own parents you're divorcing

Started by parents_will_be_sad1 month agoCA

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by parents_will_be_sad · 1 month ago
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by tried_again · 1 month ago
What is a settlement conference and is it required

Started by msc_mandatory1 month agoCA

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by msc_mandatory · 1 month ago
Can I get reimbursed for the mortgage I've been paying alone

Started by epstein_credit1 month agoCA

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by epstein_credit · 1 month ago
Lawyer keeps using terms I don't understand

Started by latin_legal1 month agoCA

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by latin_legal · 1 month ago
International travel with kids after divorce

Started by wants_to_visit_lola1 month agoCA

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by wants_to_visit_lola · 1 month ago
Online divorce services — legit or trap

Started by one_fifty_nine1 month agoCA

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by one_fifty_nine · 1 month ago
Tribal court jurisdiction — both members, ICWA child

Started by tribal_court_q1 month agoCA

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by tribal_court_q · 1 month ago
Watts credits — heard this term, no idea

Started by free_rent_for_him1 month agoCA

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by free_rent_for_him · 1 month ago
Standing temporary orders — they exist before I even ask?

Started by automatic_trots1 month agoCA

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by automatic_trots · 1 month ago
How to find a divorce financial planner

Started by cdfa_question1 month agoCA

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by cdfa_question · 1 month ago
Annulment vs divorce — which one applies

Started by bigamy_surprise1 month agoCA

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by bigamy_surprise · 1 month ago
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by nonbio_mom · 1 month ago
Vehicle title in only his name but I drove it for 9 years

Started by lexus_question1 month agoCA

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by lexus_question · 1 month ago
Divorce after 25 years — gray divorce questions

Started by twenty_five_year1 month agoCA

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by twenty_five_year · 1 month ago
Service by publication — really? In a newspaper?

Started by publish_newspaper1 month agoCA

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by publish_newspaper · 1 month ago
DivorceCare vs therapy — anyone done both

Started by two_kinds_help1 month agoCA

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by two_kinds_help · 1 month ago
Joint legal vs joint physical — confused

Started by joint_legal_means1 month agoCA

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by joint_legal_means · 1 month ago
Divorce coach — is this a real thing or a scam

Started by coach_curious1 month agoCA

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by coach_curious · 1 month ago
Got divorced, ex won't sign the deed transfer

Started by wont_sign_deed1 month agoCA

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by wont_sign_deed · 1 month ago
Pension valuation — what is a QDRO

Started by pension_pieces1 month agoCA

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by pension_pieces · 1 month ago
Domestic partnership dissolution — different from divorce

Started by rdp_unwinding1 month agoCA

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by rdp_unwinding · 1 month ago
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by joint_llc · 1 month ago
How do I serve someone I can't find

Started by missing_spouse2 months agoCA

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by missing_spouse · 2 months ago
Social Security as a divorced spouse — really a thing

Started by ss_question_50s2 months agoCA

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by ss_question_50s · 2 months ago
Health savings account split

Started by hsa_split2 months agoCA

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by hsa_split · 2 months ago
Divorce trial — how many people actually go to one

Started by going_to_trial2 months agoCA

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by going_to_trial · 2 months ago
What is bifurcation and would it help me

Started by want_to_be_single2 months agoCA

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by want_to_be_single · 2 months ago
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by guatemala_marriage · 2 months ago
Wedding rings — what do you do with them

Started by ring_in_drawer2 months agoCA

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by ring_in_drawer · 2 months ago
Health insurance after divorce — losing his coverage

Started by insurance_cliff2 months agoCA

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by insurance_cliff · 2 months ago
What does 'irreconcilable differences' actually mean

Started by no_fault_state2 months agoCA

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by no_fault_state · 2 months ago
Vexatious litigant — how does someone get labeled this

Started by eleven_motions2 months agoCA

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by eleven_motions · 2 months ago
SCRA — does my spouse get to delay because of deployment

Started by scra_delay2 months agoCA

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by scra_delay · 2 months ago
Holiday schedule and we've never written one down

Started by holiday_war2 months agoCA

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by holiday_war · 2 months ago
Modification of custody — what is a substantial change

Started by substantial_change2 months agoCA

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by substantial_change · 2 months ago
Stepkids' relationship with me after divorce

Started by step_mom_for_72 months agoCA

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by step_mom_for_7 · 2 months ago
Frequent flyer miles in divorce

Started by miles_in_play2 months agoCA

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by miles_in_play · 2 months ago
Putative spouse — heard this term

Started by maybe_not_married2 months agoCA

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by maybe_not_married · 2 months ago
Sanctions — fees for being a jerk

Started by fee_sanctions2 months agoCA

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by fee_sanctions · 2 months ago
Divorce with a deployed spouse

Started by navy_spouse2 months agoCA

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by navy_spouse · 2 months ago
Step-parent adoption — bio dad has been gone 9 years

Started by real_dad_at_home2 months agoCA

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by real_dad_at_home · 2 months ago
Postnuptial agreement after he had an affair

Started by postnup_kept2 months agoCA

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by postnup_kept · 2 months ago
Engagement ring — give back or keep

Started by ring_kept2 months agoCA

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by ring_kept · 2 months ago
Tax filing status while divorce is pending

Started by april_15_panic2 months agoCA

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by april_15_panic · 2 months ago
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