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First sleepover at dad's tonight, didn't go

Started by wouldnt_get_in_car1 month agoCA

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by wouldnt_get_in_car · 1 month ago
Foster to adopt and the bio mom is back

Started by foster_adoption_panic1 month agoCA

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by foster_adoption_panic · 1 month ago
School pickup miscommunication and child waited 90 minutes

Started by ninety_minute_wait1 month agoCA

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by ninety_minute_wait · 1 month ago
Postpartum and getting served

Started by six_weeks_postpartum1 month agoCA

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by six_weeks_postpartum · 1 month ago
Other parent badmouths me to the kids

Started by wont_badmouth1 month agoCA

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by wont_badmouth · 1 month ago
Breastfeeding and custody schedule

Started by still_nursing1 month agoCA

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by still_nursing · 1 month ago
Discipline differences between houses

Started by two_houses_two_rules1 month agoCA

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by two_houses_two_rules · 1 month ago
Phone calls during the other parent's time

Started by reasonable_calls1 month agoCA

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by reasonable_calls · 1 month ago
How do I tell my 6 year old we're getting divorced

Started by broken_hearted_mom1 month agoCA

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by broken_hearted_mom · 1 month ago
School counselor brought up kid's anxiety

Started by counselor_called1 month agoCA

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by counselor_called · 1 month ago
Spending the night at dad's new girlfriend's house

Started by new_girlfriend_overnight1 month agoCA

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by new_girlfriend_overnight · 1 month ago
My adult kid shut down completely when we told them

Started by starting_over_20261 month agoCA

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by starting_over_2026 · 1 month ago
My 8-year-old keeps asking why we got divorced

Started by hopeful_dawn1 month agoCA

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by hopeful_dawn · 1 month ago
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by anon_blended · 1 month ago
4-year-old regressed after we told her. Normal?

Started by rosa_p1 month agoCA

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by rosa_p · 1 month ago
My teenager blames me for the divorce. Help.

Started by willow_oak1 month agoCA

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by willow_oak · 1 month ago
Friends don't understand. Family is exhausting. So alone.

Started by anon_lonely1 month agoCA

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by anon_lonely · 1 month ago
How did you keep from sending the angry text?

Started by quietsail1 month agoCA

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by quietsail · 1 month ago
Therapy is too expensive — any affordable options?

Started by anon_thrift1 month agoCA

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by anon_thrift · 1 month ago
Can't eat, can't sleep — the case is destroying me

Started by starting_over_20261 month agoCA

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by starting_over_2026 · 1 month ago
Three months in and I still cry every day. Normal?

Started by hopeful_dawn1 month agoCA

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by hopeful_dawn · 1 month ago
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by rosa_p · 1 month ago
He pays cash and there's no paper trail

Started by luz_g1 month agoCA

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by luz_g · 1 month ago
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by willow_oak · 1 month ago
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by j_ramos · 1 month ago
Does child support end at 18? What about college?

Started by deepwater1 month agoCA

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by deepwater · 1 month ago
Support arrears are already $8k. How does this end?

Started by quietsail1 month agoCA

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by quietsail · 1 month ago
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by rosa_p · 1 month ago
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by newleaf2026 · 1 month ago
Just got laid off — how fast can I modify support?

Started by willow_oak1 month agoCA

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by willow_oak · 1 month ago
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by deepwater · 1 month ago
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by j_ramos · 1 month ago
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by starting_over_2026 · 1 month ago
Is the CA guideline support calculator accurate?

Started by sunflower_la1 month agoCA

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by sunflower_la · 1 month ago
How soon did you introduce a new partner to the kids?

Started by hopeful_dawn1 month agoCA

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by hopeful_dawn · 1 month ago
Should I waive spousal support forever to get this done?

Started by willow_oak1 month agoCA

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by willow_oak · 1 month ago
How did you tell your kids you were separating?

Started by quietcreek1 month agoCA

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by quietcreek · 1 month ago
How are you all coping while you wait?

Started by hopeful_dawn1 month agoCA

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by hopeful_dawn · 1 month ago
Feeling nervous about starting — does that go away?

Started by newleaf20261 month agoCA

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by newleaf2026 · 1 month ago
Supervised visitation — how does it actually work

Started by supervised_eighty_hr1 month agoCA

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by supervised_eighty_hr · 1 month ago
Coparenting a baby — too young for two homes

Started by infant_two_homes1 month agoCA

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by infant_two_homes · 1 month ago
Teen daughter refuses to see her dad

Started by fifteen_dug_in1 month agoCA

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by fifteen_dug_in · 1 month ago
Healthcare costs — uncovered medical

Started by uncovered_dental1 month agoCA

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by uncovered_dental · 1 month ago
Daycare — drop off bedlam when ex picks up

Started by daycare_scoop1 month agoCA

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by daycare_scoop · 1 month ago
School supplies expense list — who pays

Started by supply_list_1801 month agoCA

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by supply_list_180 · 1 month ago
Therapist for my 10 year old — how do I find a good one

Started by booked_out_four_months1 month agoCA

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by booked_out_four_months · 1 month ago
My kids cry every time at the custody exchange

Started by friday_six_pm1 month agoCA

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by friday_six_pm · 1 month ago
Ex's parents say things about me to my kids

Started by grandma_said1 month agoCA

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by grandma_said · 1 month ago
Child support is not stretching

Started by support_gap1 month agoCA

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by support_gap · 1 month ago
Kids' therapy — does ex have to consent

Started by needs_therapy1 month agoCA

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by needs_therapy · 1 month ago
Pediatrician — both parents need to be listed

Started by pediatrician_records1 month agoCA

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by pediatrician_records · 1 month ago
Coparenting after domestic violence

Started by police_station_pickup1 month agoCA

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by police_station_pickup · 1 month ago
CalWORKs — what's the process

Started by calworks_intake1 month agoCA

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by calworks_intake · 1 month ago
Kids meeting my new boyfriend — how soon is too soon

Started by eight_months_in1 month agoCA

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by eight_months_in · 1 month ago
Daughter doesn't want to fly anymore

Started by plane_panic_attacks1 month agoCA

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by plane_panic_attacks · 1 month ago
Kids talking to their friends about the divorce

Started by fifth_grade_telling1 month agoCA

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by fifth_grade_telling · 1 month ago
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by ofw_or_tp · 1 month ago
Free summer camp for kids of divorce

Started by summer_camp_help1 month agoCA

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by summer_camp_help · 1 month ago
ADHD diagnosis — coparenting medication decisions

Started by adhd_meds_decision1 month agoCA

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by adhd_meds_decision · 1 month ago
Telling teachers about the divorce

Started by tell_the_teacher1 month agoCA

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by tell_the_teacher · 1 month ago
Modifying child support — what counts as enough change

Started by raise_modify1 month agoCA

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by raise_modify · 1 month ago
Family therapy — do you bring the kids

Started by family_therapy_skeptic1 month agoCA

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by family_therapy_skeptic · 1 month ago
Coparenting with a narcissist — survival tips

Started by narc_coparent1 month agoCA

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by narc_coparent · 1 month ago
When did your kids stop blaming themselves

Started by not_his_fault1 month agoCA

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by not_his_fault · 1 month ago
Braces — who is supposed to pay for what

Started by braces_argument1 month agoCA

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by braces_argument · 1 month ago
SNAP benefits and child support both — do they cancel out

Started by snap_and_support1 month agoCA

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by snap_and_support · 1 month ago
Right of first refusal — what does it mean

Started by first_refusal_q1 month agoCA

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by first_refusal_q · 1 month ago
IEP meeting and ex won't show up

Started by iep_solo1 month agoCA

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by iep_solo · 1 month ago
Reunification therapy after estrangement

Started by estranged_three_years1 month agoCA

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by estranged_three_years · 1 month ago
Kids' summer schedule conflict — two work commitments

Started by summer_conflict1 month agoCA

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by summer_conflict · 1 month ago
Section 8 housing voucher for single mom

Started by voucher_search1 month agoCA

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by voucher_search · 1 month ago
Daughter's grades dropped after the divorce

Started by grades_collapsed1 month agoCA

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by grades_collapsed · 1 month ago
Sports — soccer travel team is $2400 a year

Started by soccer_travel_team1 month agoCA

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by soccer_travel_team · 1 month ago
When does a child's preference start to matter to the court

Started by twelve_year_voice1 month agoCA

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by twelve_year_voice · 1 month ago
Co-parenting class — court ordered

Started by six_hour_class1 month agoCA

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by six_hour_class · 1 month ago
How do you handle birthdays with two homes

Started by two_party_dilemma1 month agoCA

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by two_party_dilemma · 1 month ago
Bedwetting started again at 8

Started by bedwetting_returned2 months agoCA

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by bedwetting_returned · 2 months ago
Half siblings being introduced

Started by blended_questions2 months agoCA

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by blended_questions · 2 months ago
Establishing paternity for benefits

Started by ssa_paternity2 months agoCA

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by ssa_paternity · 2 months ago
Long distance grandparents and divorce

Started by long_distance_nana2 months agoCA

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by long_distance_nana · 2 months ago
Daycare receipts and ex won't reimburse

Started by daycare_owed2 months agoCA

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by daycare_owed · 2 months ago
Bio dad in prison — visitation question

Started by prison_video_visits2 months agoCA

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by prison_video_visits · 2 months ago
Step parent boundary — when is it okay to discipline

Started by new_partner_steps2 months agoCA

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by new_partner_steps · 2 months ago
Dependent care FSA — coordinating with ex

Started by fsa_dependent_care2 months agoCA

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by fsa_dependent_care · 2 months ago
Father's Day weekend and dad doesn't show

Started by fathers_day_no_show2 months agoCA

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by fathers_day_no_show · 2 months ago
Grandparents' visitation — paternal

Started by grandparent_rights2 months agoCA

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by grandparent_rights · 2 months ago
Form 8332 — releasing dependency claim

Started by form_eighty_three_thirty_two2 months agoCA

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by form_eighty_three_thirty_two · 2 months ago
Travel for visitation — interstate weekends

Started by weekend_flyers2 months agoCA

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by weekend_flyers · 2 months ago
Adoptive parent — does divorce treat me differently

Started by adoptive_dad2 months agoCA

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by adoptive_dad · 2 months ago
Religious upbringing disagreement

Started by religious_split2 months agoCA

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by religious_split · 2 months ago
Paternity test after birth — bio dad denying

Started by paternity_first2 months agoCA

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by paternity_first · 2 months ago
When kids start asking why we got divorced

Started by she_keeps_asking2 months agoCA

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by she_keeps_asking · 2 months ago
Tax dependency claim — order says alternating years

Started by double_claimed2 months agoCA

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by double_claimed · 2 months ago
Gentle parenting alone — exhausted

Started by gentle_alone2 months agoCA

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by gentle_alone · 2 months ago
Holidays alone with the kids for the first time

Started by first_christmas_alone2 months agoCA

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by first_christmas_alone · 2 months ago
Saving money for the kids when ex is unreliable

Started by 529_alone2 months agoCA

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by 529_alone · 2 months ago
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