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My teenager blames me for the divorce. Help.

CAwillow_oak1 month ago

My 15-year-old won't speak to me. She thinks the divorce is my fault. I don't want to badmouth her dad but I also don't want to take all the blame.

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deepwater1 month ago

What helped us: 'I understand you're angry. The divorce is hard for everyone. I'm not going to talk to you about the reasons because those are between adults. I love you, I'm here, and I'm not going anywhere.' Repeat. For months. She came back when she was ready.

j_ramos1 month ago

A family therapist who specialized in teens was the bridge for us. The teen could vent to a neutral adult and the therapist coached me on how to listen without defending.

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