He pays cash and there's no paper trail
CAluz_g1 month ago
He gives me cash every month. Sometimes more, sometimes less. No receipts. Is that going to be a problem if we end up in court later?
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Yes, this can become a real problem. Without a court order or written records, the support is essentially invisible — if you later need to enforce, prove arrears, or apply for benefits, you can't show what was paid. Two practical steps: (1) Open a DCSS case (free) to formalize the order even if the amount is the same. (2) If you stay informal, ask him to use Venmo / Zelle with a memo line ('child support, month X') every month. Cash with no record is the worst of both worlds.
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