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My kids cry every time at the custody exchange

CAfriday_six_pm1 month ago

Every Friday at 6pm the wailing starts. My 4 year old clings to my leg. The 7 year old shuts down. Are we doing damage by following the order?

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neutral_handoff1 month ago

We changed exchange location to neutral ground (a coffee shop) and shortened the hand-off to under 90 seconds. The crying stopped in about 5 weeks. They were reading our tension.

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