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Can't eat, can't sleep — the case is destroying me

CAstarting_over_20261 month ago

Custody hearing in two weeks. Stomach won't keep food down. Sleeping 3 hours a night. Anyone been here?

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j_ramos1 month ago

Yes. The night before my hearing I couldn't keep water down. Two things that helped: (1) Wrote my closing line ahead of time and rehearsed it in the mirror. The fear of forgetting what to say was 60% of the anxiety. (2) A short walk RIGHT before the hearing. The body has to move some of the cortisol out.

newleaf20261 month ago

Please talk to your doctor. Pre-hearing anxiety is something they see all the time and there are short-term tools that help (short course of meds, breathing exercises, etc.) without you having to commit to anything long-term.

Lawma Moderator1 month ago

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