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How did you keep from sending the angry text?

CAquietsail1 month ago

He provokes me daily over text. The case wants me to look calm. How did you NOT send the response?

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deepwater1 month ago

I had a rule: never reply same hour. Type it out, save as draft, walk away. Come back in an hour and it was always cleaner. Often I deleted it entirely.

j_ramos1 month ago

OurFamilyWizard's Tone Meter saved me literally a hundred times. The yellow/red bar before sending made me pause and rewrite.

hopeful_dawn1 month ago

My therapist's framing changed it for me — 'every message is evidence.' Once I started thinking of texts as exhibits, the tone got controlled fast.

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