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Sell the marital house or buy him out?

CAhopeful_dawn1 month ago

Equity in the house is about $200k. I can probably refinance to keep it. Sentimental reasons say keep. Numbers say sell. How did you decide?

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deepwater1 month ago

We kept ours for the kids' continuity. Two years in, the property tax / maintenance / single-income strain finally pushed me to sell. The kids adapted to the new place better than I expected. If I'd known then what I knew two years later, I'd have sold sooner.

marisol_v1 month ago

Opposite for me — kept it, refinanced, glad I did. The neighborhood and the schools were worth the stretch. Both answers are right for different people. Run the actual numbers with a mortgage broker before you decide on feelings.

newleaf20261 month ago

A financial planner (look for fee-only, fiduciary, by-the-hour — NOT commission-based) for $200-$500 can model both scenarios on a spreadsheet. Best money I spent.

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