Do I qualify for a DV restraining order if he never hit me?

Yes. In CA, 'abuse' under the DVPA (Family Code §6203 / §6320) explicitly includes 'disturbing the peace of the other party' — and the In re Marriage of Nadkarni line of cases and the more recent statutory amendments make clear that coercive control, surveillance, isolation, and monitoring count. You don't need physical violence to qualify. File a DV-100 (request) + DV-110 (proposed order) at family court. The judge reviews ex parte the same day or next day; if granted, you get a temporary order good for ~21 days until a hearing. Bring screenshots, location-tracking evidence, witness declarations.

Oakland attorney. Adding from the safety side — before filing, change your phone password, sign out of shared cloud accounts, and turn off location sharing. People filing DV petitions sometimes get spied on through the same devices they use to file. Local DV agencies will help with the safety-planning piece for free.

If you're in immediate danger, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233 (text START to 88788). They can connect you to local shelters and legal advocates who file these orders every week.